Hello! This is the first in a seven (6) blog series: The 7 Secrets to Surviving the 20-Something Years!
The hardest part about the 20-Something years is all the unknowns: Not knowing if you’re in the right career. Not knowing if you’re in the right relationship. Not knowing if you’ll ever find the right career or relationship. Some days life feels amazing, as if nothing could bring you down. Other days…not so much.
It’s tough to know if you should be just be happy and grateful for what you have or if it’s time to cut your losses and go in a new direction.
I hate to break it to you but the 20-Something years are all about uncovering the unknowns. You can’t know if a job is “right” for you until you do it and you can’t know if a person is “the one” without committing to the relationship.
The hardest part of any journey or transition is trusting that if you do make the “wrong” choice, you’ll be able to figure out which direction to go in next. Ultimately, it takes time to figure out what kind of life you want to live.
Before you sell all your belonging and run off to raise Alpacas in South America, I do have some good news. If you continue to push past your fears and stop saying to yourself, “What if I try this and then that happens…” you will find a career that allows you to do what you enjoy and you will find someone who makes you laugh and has dinner waiting for you after a long day at work.
Victory is near. To get there, you need to know the 7 secrets to surviving your 20s.
Secret #1: In the immortal words of Matthew McConaughey, “everything’s gonna be alright, alright, alright.”
When you’re in a job you hate, when you’ve just gone on your 15th truly terrible date in a row, when you’ve spent the last hour scrolling Instagram only to determine everyone else has a much better life than you, the last thing you want to hear is “everything going to be alright.”
I get it. It doesn’t feel like it’s going to be OK right now. Right now you want to dive deep under the covers of your bed and binge-watch “Gilmore Girls.”
While telling yourself “everything going to be alright” may seem pointless, it’s the most important thing you can say to yourself when you’re going through a transition.
When you want to take a risk, like changing jobs or moving to a new city, you’re standing on the ledge of a tall building. You believe there’s a net to catch you at the bottom but you can’t see it just yet.
As you stand there and look down, you’re faced with two choices, you can keep looking down and wonder what would happen if you decided to leap or you can just leap. The leaping is the easy part. Once you’re in the air, there will be a period of time when you’re free falling with no net and no way to get back on that ledge and you’re going to be scared.
It’s at these moments when you’ve got to believe everything is going to be all right. You’ve got to trust there’s a net below you and let’s say, as you get closer to the ground there isn’t a net, you’ve got to believe you’ll figure out how to land safely.
If you don’t believe, if you don’t trust you’ll figure it out, you’ll never have the confidence to take that leap. Don’t stand on the ledge…leap and trust.
Keep your eye out for Secrets #2-7 in the upcoming weeks!