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When Success Stops Being About Winning
Tess Brigham Tess Brigham

When Success Stops Being About Winning

There is a moment many high achievers hit that no one really prepares them for. It is the moment when the thing they love slowly becomes the thing that defines them.

At first this feels like success. Recognition grows, opportunities increase, and the world begins to pay attention. But psychologically something subtle can happen. The activity itself begins to carry the weight of proving who you are.

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Managing a Manager Who Doesn’t Feel Safe
Tess Brigham Tess Brigham

Managing a Manager Who Doesn’t Feel Safe

For most of my early career, we did not have language for psychological safety. We had language for “tough bosses.” We had language for “paying your dues.” We had language for “that’s just how it is.”

I am a Gen Xer. When I was coming up, the advice was simple. Keep your head down. Do good work. Do not take it personally. If it gets unbearable, find another job. Endure until you can escape.

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The Missing Skill in the Age of Slack and Zoom
Andy Meholick Andy Meholick

The Missing Skill in the Age of Slack and Zoom

Why Healthy Discomfort Matters

As a therapist working with individuals and teams I don’t believe we fully understand what algorithm-driven living is doing to us yet. We are constantly being fed more of what we already agree with, more of what we already “like,” more outrage and content that triggers us in predictable ways. And the problem is not having strong beliefs or values. The problem is what happens when we are constantly reinforced by the same emotional storyline.

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The Top 3 Mistakes Parents of Adult Children Make
Parenting Parenting

The Top 3 Mistakes Parents of Adult Children Make

As a therapist and coach who specializes in working with Millennials and Gen Zers I’ve heard countless stories of kids either moving back home after school, returning home at the start of the pandemic, or deciding to never leave home. What do you do when your babies turn into adults and are still living under your roof?

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The Smartest Business Decision Your Organization Can Make in 2023
Career & Money Career & Money

The Smartest Business Decision Your Organization Can Make in 2023

There has always been a direct correlation between an employee’s level of happiness and satisfaction at work and their level of productivity. When employees feel safe, heard, and seen, no matter what job they do, they want to do a good job. When employees don’t trust that their needs will be met, when they don’t have flexibility, safe working conditions, or a fair wage, and they feel a general lack of control over their jobs, they struggle to stay motivated.

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Can A Bad Economy Make A Quarter-Life Crisis Worse?

Can A Bad Economy Make A Quarter-Life Crisis Worse?

The quarter-life crisis can be particularly difficult because when you’re young, the possibilities are limitless. You’re (most likely) not married, have no kids, and have no mortgage. You can go anywhere, do anything, travel the world, or stay right where you are. You have so many options in front of you, which is exciting but also overwhelming. This is why this time of your life and subsequent crisis can be so stressful.

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The Key To Happiness During “The Big Stay” Is Resilience
Mental Health Mental Health

The Key To Happiness During “The Big Stay” Is Resilience

Resilience is the ability to cope and recover from life’s setbacks. Resilient people are able to face challenges, ask for help when needed, and use their skills and strengths to tackle difficult situations. Resilient people tend to see themselves as survivors. They believe they can weather any storm ahead. They’re able to regulate their emotions, have self-compassion, and feel like they have control over their lives.

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5 Ways To Turn Your Quarter Life Crisis Around In 2023

5 Ways To Turn Your Quarter Life Crisis Around In 2023

Getting through a tough time in your life isn’t about closing your eyes and hoping for the best, and it’s not about looking around and seeing what other people are doing and thinking they know something you don’t. Surviving difficult times, like a quarter-life crisis, requires you to do the exact opposite of what you want to do.

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